Baby wearing, toddler carriers and beyond

People have been carrying their children around for as long as humans have existed! There are comparisons everywhere for modern baby wearing, and fabric wraps are still commonly in use in the traditional way in various communities, but which parent (anywhere!) hasn’t carried a little baby around when it doesn’t want to lie down, or picked up a tired (usually grumpy!) toddler and carried them on their hip (giving you a wonky posture and a numb arm in the process), given them a piggy back or popped them ‘up top’ (as W calls it!) on your shoulders!?

So if you are going to carry a little one anyway, I say, make it as comfy as possible for both of you!

(This post by NCT gives some good basic safety advice for starting out with carriers.)

Image of EJ being carried on her Dad's back, walking the dogs, overlaid with text of blog title

Baby wearing has been brilliant for us and I’d go as far as to say that at various stages, and for various different scenarios, I couldn’t have done without my carriers!  So after digging out our pre-school carrier, for a slightly poorly tired W over half term, it prompted me to get writing about our experience of baby and child carriers from our, slightly non-traditional, perspective.

When J, was born we didn’t know she would have disabilities (that was something that gradually transpired as she began to miss the typical developmental milestones), so we started out as an average new family with all the typical new baby gear recommended by F&F and by the baby mags and websites, including a high street baby carrier.

We lived in London at the time, so I quite quickly decided that ‘baby wearing’ was not only nice and snuggly for me and baby J, but so much more convenient than the pram, for public transport around the city and for out walking the dogs on the common.

One of J’s first symptoms was pretty severe reflux, so the baby carrier also became a useful tool, for holding her upright to help her digestion, and allow me to be hands free to get things done around the house.

However despite being small, J soon got too heavy for the type of carrier we had and it only allowed front carries (it was a Baby Bjorn original with no waist support and my shoulders began to feel the strain), so I began researching other options, spotting what other parents were using and, when I began googling, I found a whole new world I didn’t know existed!….. From fully framed backpacks, through to soft structured carriers, ring slings and traditional fabric wraps!

There are so many options and lots of pretty colours and fabrics out there! It’s easy to see how wraps and carriers could become the new shoes and handbags in some households!

I was very pleasantly surprised to find that the ‘baby wearing community’ is pretty open to carrying larger children of any ability and I also found some really helpful advice in that community and in some of the SEND support groups I belong to!  You can also go along to ‘sling meets’ and ‘sling libraries’ where you can try some out and get some experienced advice.

In the end we invested in a number of different carriers to suit different situations and sizes of children, and I went for both a simple ring sling and, over the years, several sizes of soft structured carriers (SSC) in baby, toddler & preschool sizes!

Selfie of VM with EJ in a blue ring sling
Trying the Ring Sling

The ring sling, by Amazonas, was brilliant for hip carries for quick trips in and out of the car or carrying one or other of the children around the house.  It’s really quick to use, but with a bigger child it’s not really very comfy for long periods as the weight distribution is a little uneven, through one of your hips and your opposite shoulder.

Vaila & her husband on a country walk, each with a child in a carrier
Rose and Rebellion Pre-school Carrier & Beco Baby Carrier

We have had lots of use out of all 3 of our SSCs! They allow quite a lot of flexibility, but easy to understand, with shaped panels, safety clips and adjustable straps so you’re reassured that you are ‘doing it right’! The weight is taken mostly through the waist strap to your hips, so really helps reduce back strain, and most are suitable for both front and back carries too!

We used our first, Beco Baby Carrier, for probably longer than we should have.  J’s weight never went above the limit, but in height and leg length it became uncomfortable (one of the key comfort factors for the child is to have a good M shape to their legs, so their bum sits a bit lower in the seat and their thigh’s are nicely supported by the carrier with their knees a little higher), so we moved straight on to a Rose and Rebellion pre-school carrier when W came along. However in the end we also got an in-between size,  Tula Toddler Carrier when W outgrew the Beco too, so that my husband and I could continue to carry one of the children each!

Other options I mentioned above, are traditional fabric wraps or framed back packs.

I have always been a bit daunted with tying a traditional fabric wrap (although I did in the end get a lovely stretchy Boba wrap for W when he was a newborn), but I think by the time I was looking for a new carrier for J, wrapping wouldn’t have been right for her anyway. I think wrapping (particularly for back carrys) requires a degree of cooperation and balance from the little one, which J wasn’t able to do (at 9 months, she wasn’t able to sit unaided, and her hypotonia and hypermobility were beginning to become more apparent).

By comparison framed back packs are really easy to get the child into and out of when you are on your own, and quite often have space to carry other stuff in them, however they are only suitable for back carries and I always thought they looked too bulky for us for daily use.  SSCs, Wraps and Ring Slings have the advantage of being foldable to be popped in a bag just incase they are needed!

Vaila walking her 2 dogs with EJ in her specialist buggy and carrying baby EW in a stretch wrap
Newborn EW in a Moby stretchy wrap

As I mentioned, the carriers have helped us to get out and about in various ways in different scenarios!  Here are a few that I can think of:

  • Before W was born I often chose the carrier over the buggy/wheelchair to travel on public transport, busy crowded places or if we’d be on rough terrain.
  • J has hypotonia (low muscle tone) and often flopped around, hyperextended or slid slid off the hip when being carried, so having a sling to keep her back and bum supported really helped us both.
  • Once W came along, carrying him was the ONLY way for me to get out with the two of them on my own! I couldn’t push both buggy and J’s wheelchair!  We did later get a buggy-board with a little seat, but tended to default to the carrier most of the time (still even now if he’s a little poorly or we’re going a long way!).
  • Before we got a 3 wheel off roader for J, having two carriers allowed us to go out on family walks with both of the children (and dogs!) to experience woodland walks and sandy beaches – some of J’s favourite things!
  • If either of the children was in need of extra reassurance, perhaps unwell or suffering sensory overload, carrying them close with the snug feeling of the sling fabric around them helped to calm.
  • Once J was at school, and W was older and wanted to walk much of the time, I found taking his buggy a bit of a hassle so, again, most often I’d roll up the carrier, pop it in my bag and he’d walk until tired, then I’d whip out the carrier and pop him on my back! Easy!

Another nice thing about carrying children is that you can chat much more easily than when a child is in a buggy, which is fantastic for communication, you can more easily to point out sights and sounds, or to quietly sing to them if they are poorly or unsettled!  It also gave J a different experience to that of being in the wheelchair, higher up for a different perspective on her environment, and allowing her to experience things in the same way as her brother when he is up top!

J’s brother W is now (at almost 4) is pretty self sufficient at walking or scooting, but I still keep a carrier in the car so it’s there, just for days like we had during half term, when he’s a bit poorly, or if we’re going on a particularly long walk.  I have also been known to carry J still, for short but wheel unfriendly walk, or when she’s a bit under the weather and needs a good cuddle!

And last (but definitely not least!), it’s lovely for mum and dad continue having those snuggly hugs as long as possible (with less risk of doing yourself an injury!)!


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19 Replies to “Baby wearing, toddler carriers and beyond”

  1. Ah yes I vaguely remember the days of my husband and I each carrying one of the twins in a baby bjorn whilst running around after our other two who were 3 and 5 at the time, I’ve noticed some of the newer slings around and they look really good but we are now well past that stage – all my kids are taller than me now! I do have a new nephew/niece on the way so maybe I’ll have a chance to do some baby carrying again soon – hope so!

  2. My little one spent most of his early years with his legs in plaster, or with a hip spica cast. I so wish I could have carried him all the time, but it was not possible. Many of my friends are keen baby-wearers and their children are the most incredibly chilled children imaginable. Constant closeness has to help. #spectrumsunday

  3. It was like being hands free on your mobile, only you had your kid on your back, or your front… I loved our beco and how easy it was to use and hug and feel loved! I miss those days, but now is grand too! Mine are 9 and 7! They can pick me up practically! #kcacols xoxo

  4. I love this post. I carried both of mine, the eldest who has Autism for a very long time especially if places were busy and the youngest virtually constantly when he was tiny because of his reflux. I totally agree that babywearing is a great tool in any parent’s armour x

  5. It’s a while ago for me now but I do remember giving them a try. I didn’t take to them too well but I do love the idea and it’s great to see how much the designs have some on in leaps and bounds. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time.

    1. There definitely seems to be a greater range around now! When we bought our first one it was really only the Baby Bjorn, but now many of the big retailers sell a variety of styles, which is fab!

  6. We have a couple of carriers – we used them when travelli g or traipsing round the countryside. Now Snappy is walking though we use it less.

  7. I did lot of research into carriers and purchased a few or varying types and brands but never got on well with any. My back is held together with metal though and I’ve always struggled to carry anything heavy so maybe it’s never meant to be. Having a section and not recovering too well I left it late to start carrying too. I’m hoping if I started earlier my body would adjust as bubs grows. I defo want to try carrying again. It will be a godsend with a second.

    Thanks for linking up to #KCACOLS

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